The Rules.
This blog entry is completely dedicated to women. If I had only 5 minutes to give them any advice when it comes to a successful and happy relationship, I would tell them that there are only three rules to follow when it comes to finding the right man.
1. The man has to love/like the woman more than the woman loves/likes the guy.
Logic: I don’t recall a single successful relationship, marriage, or partnership where the woman loved the man more. The principle is rather simple. Men cannot live with the fact that they are being loved more. They will either become tormented and guilted knowing his love might not be enough, (the nice guy syndrome) or he’ll simply find someone else and cheat.
Men will cheat mainly for the fact that he isn’t afraid to lose you. There is always going to be a thought that the woman may forgive the man in spite of the infidelity. That feeling of security for a man is incredibly tempting and enticing. Though cheating would be the most extreme action, it may occur in a lesser degree where the woman isn’t being appreciated to the man’s full capacity.
The nice guy syndrome. Guys who are really define themselves as a nice guy will have a difficult time accepting the fact that the her girlfriend, wife, or partner loves them more than they love them. It’ll torment them and guilt them to the point they’ll chose to break up for her sake though he may still want to be with her. He’ll feel that his girl deserves more and he is incapable of giving it to her.
2. Never believe a man’s words only look at his actions.
Logic: Men are born doers. Words and communication will always be weaker compared to most women. Men speak through their actions. Men become best friends by playing sports and doing activities together. Women become best friends by talking and having sleep overs. Truth of the matter is men only learned to talk and communicate out of necessity. Words are just tools to get what they want. Truth of the matter is if a man wanted to marry a woman he wouldn’t just say “I wanna marry you.” He’ll be on his knee with a ring. Actions are the only words men really know. So don’t just believe a man when he says “I love you.” You shouldn’t even have to hear those words (though I know women love to hear it) because it’s already obvious that he loves you when he choses you over his friends. He goes to your family dinners though your family hates him. And he never forgets an important date.
3. If a man wanted you, he’ll do everything in his power to get you.
Logic: This rule is simple. It’s exactly what it means. If a man really wanted you, he’ll be patient and wait for you. He’ll find a way to get your attention. He’ll make sure you know that he wants/loves you. It’s really just that simple. He’ll even make a fool out himself (though I hope he wouldn’t).
Side note: Though most people think there are always exceptions to the rules, I honestly and whole heartedly believe these rules have no exception. Given enough feedback, I would happily have a discussion, but as for now, I can’t imagine a successful and happy relationship where these rules did not apply.
These rules apply to myself as well.
